As American women we are taught to focus (may I say obsess?) on a very narrow definition of beauty that is propagated primarily by the fashion industry and Hollywood. However, we have all encountered people that at first glance exhibited all the current trends in pleasing appearance, and yet, there was something decidedly unattractive about them. The reverse is true as well. I’ve seen men buzzing around a woman like bees around the hive, while the other women present scratched their heads.
What is beauty? According to Webster’s it is, “The quality or aggregate of qualities in a person or thing that gives pleasure to the senses or pleasurably exalts the mind or spirit.” Beauty is a complex thing then. It isn’t a single quality, like skinny thighs or big blue eyes, that make us irresistible. Those of us concerned with our appearance tend to dissect ourselves like a high school, biology project and wonder why the result is carnage.
When I was in my twenties, the company I was working for sent the sales staff (we were all women) to modeling school for a special class in achieving an attractive, professional appearance. It was eye opening for me. The first thing the instructors did was to assess each of us on a variety of attributes. Up to this point, I had always assumed that because I didn’t have a perfect nose, my hair lacked body and I had occasional breakouts on my face, I was out of luck when it came to being beautiful. What I learned in this class, however, is that super models and Hollywood actresses have issues, too!
The key is to accentuate your advantages and minimize, or change, those things that are less than perfect. I also learned that beauty is about the entire package. It is about how you walk, how you talk, how you interact, and maybe most importantly, how you perceive yourself. Makeup, the right clothes and hairstyle don’t hurt your cause any either.
In this guide I will take a look at the multitude of things that combine to create the impression of beauty. I say impression because that’s really what it is. There is no objective standard of beauty, despite what the media would have you believe. It truly is in the eye, actually in the brain, of the beholder. The brain is the most complex organ in the human body. It is responsible for muscle control, controlling the other organs of the body, the senses, and in some mysterious way, it is where our mind, our intelligence and our personality reside. Not only does our own brain have great power to make us more irresistible, but the way we effect the senses of those around us is decoded by their brains as “pretty” or “not.”