It may sound too easy to be true, but I’m going to tell you exactly how to make this year (and every one after it) the best year of your life yet. All you have to do is let go.
Even the Mayo Clinic states that letting go is the quickest way to a happier life for inspiring women.
“Forgiveness can lead to healthier relationships, greater spiritual and psychological well-being, less anxiety, lower blood pressure, fewer symptoms of depression and lower risk of alcohol and substance abuse.”
So if it’s that easy, why don’t we all do it? I believe it’s mostly because, no matter what a good person you are, forgiveness can be hard. Sometimes people do evil things for no reason. Sometimes luck just isn’t on our sides. And sometimes, there are things that simply happen and are completely out of our control. I’m here to tell you that none of that matters, because you can win the entire war by just relieving yourself of the burdens.
1) Caring What Others Think
We all heard as children to “just not care what other people think”. Unfortunately for most of us, it was hard then and it’s even more difficult now. However, it’s more important than it ever was for you to just not worry about it. Instead of worrying about what your coworkers, your Facebook friends or what strangers will think of what you chose to wear today or how you laugh, spend that time caring about YOU. Think about how you can improve your day, or what you can do for someone else that will make their day better and in turn yours.
2) Anger and Resentment For the Past
This one is tough because it’s rooted deep. Often, there is a single person or event that you just can’t seem to let go of, no matter how hard you try. I have been a victim of this multiple times, and I have always found that unfortunately, it only decreases my own life’s value. I spend so much time being angry at a person for hurting me, or regretting a job or whatever else, that I wind up obsessing. Over-analyzing. Spending my own time, which I should be savoring, worrying about somebody or something else. Don’t let that be you. Decide today that you are going to let go of the friend that hurt you, the time you wished you had said what was on your mind or the time you wish you hadn’t said anything at all. Instead, go forward and do it right next time.
This one you can’t pin on anyone but you. We are all guilty of making excuses sometimes or feeling bad for ourselves when things don’t go our way. But one of the ways to increase your own happiness is to admit your own faults. Know what you’ve done wrong, or what you could have done better, and do a better job next time. Don’t sit and wallow, and don’t make any excuses for yourself or anyone else. Accept poor choices (on your behalf or others’) and vow not to make them again.
4) Jealousy and Judgement
Stop these RIGHT NOW. Stop worrying about how long your coworker’s skirt was or how your boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend looks in orange or how you can one-up your high school nemesis’s last Facebook picture. Isn’t what you’re thinking absurd?! And more than that, it’s not nice. We should treat others how we want to be treated, and we should treat ourselves how we’d like others to treat us. Stop being jealous– if you don’t have it and you’re still getting by, it sounds like you don’t need it. Stop being judgmental– if it’s not you, your body or your choice, why are you so concerned?
Here’s a thought: some things you just can’t control. Some things that affect you, you can’t even control! The traffic, the weather, or even worse- what the weather did to your hair (there are some days that no amount of anti-frizz serum can save!). Just accept those things as they come, and move on to righting the things you can control. It will save you loads of time and numbers in blood pressure.
6) Ideas of Perfection
Unfortunately, none of us can be perfect. But it’s important to remember that if you’re not perfect, then it’s probably true that your best friend, your boyfriend or your boss can’t be either. Try your hardest to be the best person you can be, not the most perfect (there is a difference). Take caution when other people aren’t perfect so that you can be sensitive and understanding, because isn’t that how you’d want them to treat you?
7) The Dream That It’s All Just Going to Show Up On Your Doorstep
No, the lottery, Brad Pitt and world peace are probably not ever going to be delivered to you by the UPS. But that doesn’t mean you can’t “have it all”! What does having it all to you mean? Being kind to those you love? Doing well at your job? Going to sleep happy everyday? You can (and should!) have all of those things. Just let yourself be happy. Realize you deserve it and you can achieve it. The rest will all work out.
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